A New Year’s Resolution: Quiet the Old Tapes

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In my column about time management, I mentioned a nagging inner voice saying, “You did not get enough done today.” That phrase ties to an old “tape,” inner dialogue left by the voices of parents and childhood teachers that says, “You are never going to amount to anything. You are a bad person.” The inner drive to continually produce is an effort on my part to quiet down this old tape. But with Parkinson’s (and getting older) the cost of this nagging inner dialogue has become too much. My New Year’s resolution is to dull this inner dialogue’s noise and intrusion.

The inner drive to always be doing something, to be productive, is also tied to identity. During the holidays, friends and family often inquire, “What have you been doing?” Doing is connected to how we describe ourselves to others, to a sense of our own identity. Parkinson’s disease (PD) consumes the time necessary for doing things that connect to identity. The sense of self begins to shift and the old tapes, once silenced by a healthily productive life, are emboldened by the disease.

Everyone has old tapes tied to memories, some more intense than others. My New Year’s resolution focuses on my most annoying tape because it damages my self-identity and it’s hard to find the self I knew before my Parkinson’s battle. Since I can’t find, feel, know, or sense my old self in the way I once did, there is an emptiness. Part of how I knew myself seems absent, and that emptiness gets filled with the noise from the old tapes. I can’t use “doing” as a functional way to address my identity anymore, so it is my New Year’s resolution to find a better way.

The search for self in the midst of PD is a winding path through the forest of symptoms and steps taken to embrace a high quality of life. It is a forest path filled with obstacles, and it can become one’s self-identity. But there is a difference between saying, “There stands that Parkinson’s guy,” and saying, “There stands Dr. C. He has Parkinson’s.” It may seem like a subtle difference, but it is important because linking one’s self-identity too closely with the disease also creates a link to negative self-dialogue: “You are a diseased person.” That raises the volume of the old tape.

The disease should never become our identity, but given how much time is spent on Parkinson’s and how much conversation is focused on it, it is difficult not to become the disease. The cognitive aspects of PD also make it harder to stay in touch with healthy self-identity. Who am I? How do others view me now that I have this disease? Answers to these two questions help me to keep in touch with the Dr. C alternate identity I have developed and strengthened over four decades. Yes, this self-identity includes PD, but it is something that has happened to me rather than something I have become. Also, replacing negative internal dialogue with positive internal dialogue has been a regular practice, though it seems a bit harder these days.

This New Year’s resolution is sent to me, to Dr. C, who is struggling to sit with a healthy sense of self. It is a resolution wish sent along with a lightness, a gentle touch. It is sent with hope, kindness, and an infinite well of patience. I share the same resolution with all those who read this column along with compassionate blessings for your new year.

Do you have old tapes that interfere in your life?


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zahira avatar


thanks..........really great.

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Derek Marshall

Well put, nice sentiments and good attitude. Strive we must as the alternative is not good. To fail to strive is to give in to a spiritual darkness that has no good future. Sometimes at night these dark thoughts crowd out the good. I am always grateful for the dawn, a nice cup of coffee and breaking free of that darkness.

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Dr. C

The column I wrote for this week (not yet published) speaks to practicing meditation. The "dark" things that cloud the mind can't just be removed. They need to be replaced. Hopefully the meditation column will shed some light on this process.

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michael wall

I don't have Parkinson's... it has me. The "tapes" I struggle with in the face of no longer being able to do most of what informed my identity (playing music, public speaking, workshop facilitation, surfing, hiking, bicycling) are focused on judging the things I am "doing" to fill my days as being inferior by comparison. One example is watching entertainment pretty much from the end of dinner to bedtime. I often feel guilty that I am "wasting" 3-4 hours a day - when I "should" be using that time more creatively, productively, in more purposeful and meaningful ways, doing service, etc. The fact is that by dinner I am spent... Dr. C be grateful you have the physician title and that it still informs your identity. My life was devoted to producing / leading events in one way or another and although the memories live on, the sense of self has not. Thank you for your excellent column - it is thought provoking for me, and is helping my parents better understand many of the existential issues I am dealing with

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Dr. C.

Hello Michael ~ The words in your comment could have come out of my own mouth. I struggle with the profound lack of energy and clear thinking during my evening off period which correlates with the hours you identify as a struggle also. I too was a person of many accomplishments before Parkinson's and it has been difficult to reconcile the past "me" with the present "me". The best I can say is to find a level of acceptance that the new "you" requires taking advantage of the time that is productive and letting go of the guilt when rest is very much needed. I'd like to refer you to my column http://parkinsonsnewstoday.com/columns/how-track-biological-cycles-parkinsons-disease/ published on December 9, 2022. The best workaround for the changes in available physical or cognitive resources that I've found is to identify them and then do your best to take advantage during those moments. For me, my best time (on good days) is between 11 am and 3 pm. The "Dr." reflects my Ph.D. in rehabilitation which I am still able to apply and share. Thanks for following the columns, Happy Holidays.
Dr. C.


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