Learning to Live Simply With Parkinson’s Disease
A sign hangs above my desk with only one word on it: “Simplify.”
The sign isn’t fancy by any means. But it does make me stop to ponder what that small word means to me. And it must have made an impression for me to fork out $3 to buy it.
It may seem elementary, but somewhere in its simplistic message, a great freedom can be found. This type of freedom whispers to our heavy hearts to let go, to simplify, to take what seems complicated and make it simple. But is that possible with Parkinson’s disease?
Parkinson’s is complicated, there’s no doubt about that. It’s a tough illness, as are so many others. Because it’s tough, it’s important to make our journey with it as simple as possible. We simplify by letting go of things, and sometimes people.
I recently read somewhere (I can’t remember where) that Parkinson’s is the “big litmus test” of the people meant to stay in our lives. I would add, “And the people we need to let go.”
Just as things in our life can drag us down, so can people. Family, friends, acquaintances all have the capacity to hurt us, and unfortunately, they will (and vice versa).
We can start simplifying our lives by forgiving and then letting go. Make a stand for newfound freedom by not allowing the past to rob you of the good days you have left. Clear the clutter from your emotional life and move on.
The places that make you anxious are the places that may need simplification. As our emotional and mental lives become cluttered and need simplifying, so can our material lives. When we leave our homes cluttered and filled with stuff, it can affect us mentally.
I remember years ago a friend told me her husband “got it.” After coming home and finding her in tears after a long day with three little ones, he started cleaning up the kitchen. She asked him what he was doing.
“When the house is a mess, you’re a mess,” he responded.
He did get it. Wise man.
As this disease progresses, my memory seems to forget things I wish to remember. So, I make lists to lighten the anxiety I often feel when I forget something.
I have daily and weekly lists. My daily list includes when to take medications, and it makes time for exercise. It has a time slot for reading, journaling, household duties, and phone calls I need to make. Distraction can be part of the disease, so having even the simplest of lists makes this disease more manageable.
We can bring simplicity into our lives in many ways, but this about sums it up: Live simply so that you may simply live.
In other words, simplify!
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I struggled with a lot of what you have covered in this piece. I have found internal peace after a period of therapy with a Psychologist, Yoga, meditation and just breathing. My mind has had a good declutter. It is true I am not the woman I was before my diagnosis, however, I still have an amazing contribution to make. I can deal with my own fear but not the fear of others. Thank you Sherri.
Hi Annette - Thanks for reading my column and leaving a comment. I am glad you are finding relief through decluttering your life and yes, you certainly do have a contribution to make. Also, don’t feel obligated to deal with the fears of others. That isn’t our calling. We can encourage others in their journey, support them when they fall and walk beside them as they strain forward. Find freedom in letting to of the things that try to hold you back. Fears we were never meant to carry.
I just sold my 2-story home to declutter and simplify by planning to build a 1-story, open floor plan, with a completely walk-in shower , a vanity in which i can sit and get ready, and lots of other things that will help make the burden at least a little easier. I'm only 39 and I have a lot of life to live and enjoy ahead of me, a spunky and very active 4 yo to name 1 specific thing. I've got to declutter and simplify to get the most out of my blessings and not have as much stress that comes with every day life.
Great column! Just what I needed this evening after my feel sorry for myself party. Judy T
Thank you, Judy, for your comment. I am thank it encouraged you! -sherri