The spoon theory helps us better plan my husband’s days
The analogy gives us a way to assess his energy levels with Parkinson's
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It is incredible how many new things we learned during my husband Arman’s recent hospital and rehabilitation stays. While working with new therapists, nurses, and specialists, we gathered numerous tips and tricks to aid us on our journey with his Parkinson’s disease.
We had a fantastic speech therapist who spoke to us about a range of topics, not just speech therapy. This included ways to make life easier for us.
The best takeaway from our time with her, besides her fantastic speech lessons, was learning about the “spoon theory.” Our therapist was surprised that we hadn’t heard of it in the 15-plus years since Arman’s diagnosis.
Living with Parkinson’s disease, or any illness, can be exhausting. The spoon theory was created by writer Christine Miserandino to help explain the limited amount of energy — or number of “spoons” — that people with chronic conditions have. They start each day with a certain number of spoons, each representing the energy required to complete a task.
Let’s use Arman as an example. He has early-onset Parkinson’s disease and is currently receiving physical therapy (PT) and occupational therapy (OT) at home.
Last week, he was scheduled for both OT and PT on the same day. We realized that evening that this was too much for one day. He used up all of his spoons during those two sessions, leaving him without the energy to do much else. We made sure not to schedule more than one therapy appointment per day after that.
Planning ahead
The spoon theory can be used to assess the amount of energy a person has available each day, allowing them to allocate that energy as effectively as possible. Thoughtfully planning our days in advance is key for us. If we know that Arman will use up his spoons at a doctor’s appointment, we’ll keep the rest of the day open. Or, if we plan to have dinner with friends or family, we will do so on a day when we have no other commitments.
With Parkinson’s disease, tasks such as shaving and grooming can be particularly exhausting for Arman and for me as his caregiver. Just as with medical appointments or social engagements, we are thoughtful about planning tasks that require a significant amount of effort, or spoons, to complete.
This led me to think about how caregivers — or anyone — could learn from the spoon theory. Those without chronic conditions may have a different bandwidth than those with illnesses, but we could all benefit from budgeting our energy and prioritizing certain tasks and activities. Recognizing limitations can help us manage our physical and mental load.
Explaining this theory to family and friends can help them better understand your needs and limits, and offer more tailored support. It can also help others adjust their expectations and be realistic about their own capabilities.
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