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When family becomes bitter that I’m not who I was
hi. I’ve been aware that my many conditions has been progressing and becoming more clear to me I am not the same person I used to be. I’m doing well with the process; but my husband, well frankly he can be very cruel & mean towards me. He has things he’s dealing with in his own life. Ex: questioning where his life went to. How kids and I makes him so unhappy. He makes comments that really hurts me like this morning, (he said something he needs me to do like know what I want to say before talking to nurse so I don’t sound like I’m stumbling over my words. I explained that’s why I need my CNA to handle what I can’t anymore. He mumbles angrily “you just don’t want to do it” – I know caring for an ill person is not easy. What is hard is being blamed for what is out of my control. I’m not going to minimize what he deals with, but what he won’t try to understand is what I’m going thru. It is ME, not him, who is in severe pain and can’t care for myself anymore. I share that his remarks are hurtful and he just says “yep” …. mom passed away and I don’t have her to turn too. She was terminally ill for years. Now I’m terminally ill but different conditions. We knew we only had each other to really talk to about what we were going thru —— no one else really got it. And I married a guy is like my dad. No empathy and life evolves around him. I don’t want life evolve around me either, but he needs to stop blaming me. There is a huge wall up between us. He has no intentions of changing that. He ailiants me. How has others dealt with this sort of thing?
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