Overcoming the Grief Caused by Parkinson’s

Overcoming the Grief Caused by Parkinson’s

One thing that many people might not associate with experiencing Parkinson’s disease is grief. Experiencing grief with this disease is real. It can be felt deep down in your soul, whether you are the one who actually has the disease or you are the caregiver. You mourn for a life that used to be, and fear it may never be again.

Although our life changes in unexpected ways and fear threatens to consume our days and terrorize our nights, we can learn to overcome those wretched feelings. Innumerable people miss out on the rich experiences and blessings they have been given today because they can’t stop worrying about their future with Parkinson’s.

In “Living Beyond Your Feelings: Controlling Emotions So They Don’t Control You,” author Joyce Meyer writes, “The three most harmful negative emotions are anger, guilt, and fear.” When we have Parkinson’s disease, we are particularly susceptible to anger and fear. 

We experience anger, as evidenced when we ask ourselves the age-old question, “Why me?”

We pump our fists in the air and ask, “What did I ever do to deserve this?!” Our dreams of a better tomorrow feel as if they have been sucked dry and replaced with feelings that frighten us and worries we can’t seem to get under control. 

We think about what used to be: The days when we were able to work at a job we loved; the times when we could get down and play with our grandchildren; the summer vacations we took that used to reenergize us instead of wearing us out. Grief steps in and leaves us feeling fearful and despairing.

Two weeks ago, I lost someone dear to me. She was like a second mother to me. I babysat her daughter as a newborn. She was my maid of honor at my wedding. And when I think of her, a great sadness overcomes me: grief. It not only came upon me at the news of her passing, but also returns each time I think of her.

Getting a diagnosis of Parkinson’s disease can be like losing a loved one.

There is the initial grief, but waves of grief can still overcome us, sometimes when we least expect them. Often, those waves of grief are accompanied by fear. Not only are we dealing with what we’ve lost, but also we are fearful of what we may still lose.

Getting through grief over the loss of a loved one takes time, and the amount of time varies with each individual. It’s the same with the grief of having Parkinson’s. 

Grief is normal.

Grief is a part of life. While we must learn to accept it, it is still OK to cry. It is OK to mourn what we have lost. In that mourning, however, we need to remember that life goes on. While we may not know what tomorrow will bring, we know we have this moment right here, right now, and Parkinson’s can’t take that away.


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Sherri was diagnosed with young-onset Parkinson’s disease over 15 years ago. She can be found working in her garden, going for walks, taking pictures, or reading books to her three favorite grandkids. Sherri is taking life somewhat slower, and perhaps with guarded steps, but she’s not giving in.
Sherri was diagnosed with young-onset Parkinson’s disease over 15 years ago. She can be found working in her garden, going for walks, taking pictures, or reading books to her three favorite grandkids. Sherri is taking life somewhat slower, and perhaps with guarded steps, but she’s not giving in.

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  1. Steve Walsh says:

    Hi Sherri. Let me first say Wow! you are some prolific writer. I just recently ran across this site after a friend shared Jeanne Mello’s recent column. I’m going to try to catch up on your columns but I wanted to comment on your latest column first.
    Before I do I would like to add my condolences on the loss of your friend.
    I was diagnosed Aug 2014. I read somewhere that writing can be therapeutic for PD patients so I thought I would give it a try. Our local support center provides a web site where we can post our writings. One of my first posts was on this very subject. Here’s what I wrote last fall.
    Steve Walsh (originally posted on GiveGab 9/3/2018)
    People often compare receiving a life altering diagnosis with losing a loved one. In a sense that is exactly what has happened. The patient and their loved ones have lost their “pre-PD” family member or friend and despite their best efforts that person is not coming back. The question then becomes how do we move forward.
    There are several models outlining the stages of grief. I prefer the 5 stages model. In this model the 5 stages are : Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. I’m not going to turn this post into a textbook on handling grief. I only want to make 2 points here. Please note these are my personal opinions.
    Point 1. You cannot effectively begin to fight PD until you reach the Acceptance stage. This does not mean you simply skip the first four stages. You simply cannot get stuck in the first four stages. You need to get angry. It’s OK to feel “why me?” The danger is getting stuck in one of these stages and therefore being unable to effectively combat the disease.
    Point 2. Just because you have reached the Acceptance stage, that does not mean you will never again experience the first four stages. Let’s face it, a part of us will continue the be angry about having PD. We just need to focus that anger into positive pursuits like exercise, fund raising and volunteerism. The same is true for the other phases. It’s OK to “visit” them periodically, just don’t get stuck there.

    Thanks for your column on this subject. It’s helpful to get a variety of perspectives as we tackle the challenges PD throws our way. Looking forward to catching up on your previous columns. Take care.

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